Brilliant that you have shared this - and that it can be a talking point and supportive of when you might be a lone fish in your family / social circle trying to update everyone's views on these matters. Sometimes people need courage to put in a counter view! So many people just don't think further than their own enjoyment in the moment and as you well point out, it's now even deeper than just the more obvious embarrassing photos or comments.
Thanks Lez. It can certainly feel awkward when asking friends or family not to share images but once you start explaining, I’ve found people are very supportive. Now just to share this post with the organisers of youth groups, clubs and schools!
So true! Some people post about everything! I did a bit more when she was small and we were further away from family/friends. Nowadays only on birthdays and holidays/days out. Never posted anything embarrassing, I don’t get why people would do that to their child?! I’ll post even less after reading your article.
That's great to hear, Ani! I think often parents share embarrassing pictures because they know their friends will find it funny. But it's very different sharing a story with a friend in person than posting an image that will live forever.
I just wrote about this as well! We decided before our first was born that posting our children online wasn’t the right decision for our family. We have never regretted it!
I recently asked my children’s primary school to consider making their Facebook page private but they want it public for marketing. This post is really timely for me as does a much better job of explaining my concerns than I managed. Thank you
Ok, so I actually became aware of this before I became a dad, so I've been very intentional about this from the day my son was born. My only problem is that my father-in-law insists on posting pictures of my kid on his Facebook, and it drives me crazy. We had a talk that we wanted zero pictures of him posted online, and yet he continues. Any tips on confronting family about this? He's stubborn as a mule, and he's always right, so it should be a pretty easy conversation, I think. Haha. (sarcasm)
Brilliant that you have shared this - and that it can be a talking point and supportive of when you might be a lone fish in your family / social circle trying to update everyone's views on these matters. Sometimes people need courage to put in a counter view! So many people just don't think further than their own enjoyment in the moment and as you well point out, it's now even deeper than just the more obvious embarrassing photos or comments.
Thanks Lez. It can certainly feel awkward when asking friends or family not to share images but once you start explaining, I’ve found people are very supportive. Now just to share this post with the organisers of youth groups, clubs and schools!
100%!! I stopped putting my kids on social media for some of the same reasons & a few more… https://dearchristianparent.substack.com/p/why-i-stopped-putting-pictures-of
Such an important topic, Hannah - thank you for writing about this!
Thank you Adina!
So true! Some people post about everything! I did a bit more when she was small and we were further away from family/friends. Nowadays only on birthdays and holidays/days out. Never posted anything embarrassing, I don’t get why people would do that to their child?! I’ll post even less after reading your article.
That's great to hear, Ani! I think often parents share embarrassing pictures because they know their friends will find it funny. But it's very different sharing a story with a friend in person than posting an image that will live forever.
I can’t fathom why they’d do that and humiliate their child to make people laugh! That’s just so unfair on the child!
I just wrote about this as well! We decided before our first was born that posting our children online wasn’t the right decision for our family. We have never regretted it!
I recently asked my children’s primary school to consider making their Facebook page private but they want it public for marketing. This post is really timely for me as does a much better job of explaining my concerns than I managed. Thank you
Ok, so I actually became aware of this before I became a dad, so I've been very intentional about this from the day my son was born. My only problem is that my father-in-law insists on posting pictures of my kid on his Facebook, and it drives me crazy. We had a talk that we wanted zero pictures of him posted online, and yet he continues. Any tips on confronting family about this? He's stubborn as a mule, and he's always right, so it should be a pretty easy conversation, I think. Haha. (sarcasm)
Great piece! What about sharing photos in WhatsApp and encrypted online photo albums etc? Photos are still ‘out there’ but more secure?